How do you react when someone gives you a compliment?
Friend: “Hi Dave, how’s things? Wow, you’re looking really healthy, what have you been doing?
Do you die of embarrassment, look away and generally dismiss it with doughy words?
You: “Yeah, well, Um, yeah, I’ve been kinda changing my diet a bit, but, you know, no big deal….”
Or do you hold firm, look the person in the eye and thank them with confidence?
You: Thanks mate, yeah I’ve been working really hard in changing my diet, and, well, I guess it’s paying off….and hey, thanks for noticing…”
Now, Imagine the compliment as a gift – a nice bottle of wine or maybe a thank you card.
This someone – a friend, colleague or even your boss – has taken the time to reach out to you to acknowledge an achievement or positive outcome which you’ve been involved in.
Friend: “Hey Dave, I just wanted to give your this small token of my appreciation for the work you did on delivering X…”
If you legitimately deserved it, would you ever contemplate giving the gift back?
You: “Sorry mate, I can’t really accept it…I, um, yeah, no, I can’t take that from you…”
If you refuse the gift what effect do you think that would have on the giver?
Disappointment, resentment maybe.
And that’s why 99% of the time we accept gifts from those who we share respect, trust and love.
We want to share in the moment. To honor their kindness and appreciation. To complete the ‘giving is receiving’ loop.
Now imagine the gift is your health.
Perfect in every way.
A strong heart, billowing lungs, muscles and bones which bend our body every which way.
Most of us have been lucky enough to be born this way.
Yet over time we give this gift back.
We pull on the silver ribbon encasing the gift and it begins to unravel – little by little.
Our blood vessels clog by eating poor food, our muscles and bones become weak through inactivity and our lungs fill with cigarette smoke.
Rather than accept the gift and wonder at its beauty we, slowly over time, hand it back.
But what we should be doing is embracing the gift so we can hand it FORWARD.
By embellishing our health we are in a better position to help others – our family and friends.
Our kids see us grocery shopping, preparing real food in a real kitchen, being active in the yard, walking the dog and even doing the occasional push-up.
There’s no sign of Uber eats or couch potatoes.
By positively influencing others we, in-turn, hand them the gift.
The positive habits we live by as adults – as providers and influencers – we pass onto our kids.
And there’s a lot of power behind that.
……Hey everyone! as it’s my last blog for 2018 I wanted to thank you all for your support – to everyone who has commented, contributed and conversed on my webpage, I appreciate your words. To you and your families have a safe, healthy and happy Christmas.